This is a time when many of us have challenging conversations.
Many of the conversations I have had involve:
Many of us have strong opinions on these issues – and often not on the same side.
Disagreeing is difficult and unpleasant. Many of us naturally have the mindset that such discussions are unproductive.
However, as someone who researches character, I believe that these challenging discussions are opportunities for practicing personal character strengths and virtues. Life presents us challenges, and it is in working through these challenges that we grow significantly.
As we converse, let us practice the following:
“I would love to learn more about how you have come to this position. Would you be willing to share more?”
“I have strong opinions on this issue. But – I recognize I can be wrong and need to learn more. I would love to have your thoughts on this.”
“I appreciate the discussion we had. I value your friendship and hope we can continue dialoguing on this -- and other things in life.”
“Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.”
I hope you will disagree well with others, and that we can all grow through these conversations.
Be well,
Dr. Louis Tay
Tay is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences. He has expertise in well-being, assessments, and data science. Check back each week for his wellness tip of the week!
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